Language is tough. I hate debating semantics, and yet it does seem important to define some terms. I may edit this in the future, because as of now I’m speaking off the cuff. Lots of words we use have baggage, and lots of people won’t like the way others use them. However, I’m going to say how I use them here, so at least we’re clear.
Evangelical: For the purpose of this blog, an Evangelical is somebody who does not believe that homosexuality (By which I mean having gay sex at some point, inside or outside of marriage) is okay before God.
Homophobe: A homophobe is somebody who does not believe that homosexuality is okay before God or before government. They do not support equality under the law.
Bigot: A bigot is somebody who does not believe that homosexuality is okay before God, before government, or before any people whatsoever. They actively discriminate not only in law, but in personal relationships and business.
Traditional/Orthodox: Traditional and Orthodox are terms that will not be used in this blog at all. The belief that being gay is a sin is just as new as the belief that it isn’t. There is nothing more traditional or orthodox about either.
LGBTQ*: The people who cause all sorts of cognitive dissonance for Evangelicals.
Allies: The people without cognitive dissonance who are awesome and helpful to people who are LGBTQ*.
Evangelical Ally: Somebody who loudly supports LGBTQ* people both personally and in law, but still holds religious beliefs that may question homosexuality’s position before God.
Ex-gay: A very confused bisexual person.
Complementarian: A special breed of Evangelical; a complementarian believes that men and women are innately different, not only biologically and psychologically, but spiritually. Such a view is absolutely dependent on the subservience of women to men. It also comes up a lot in LGBTQ* discussions because of the broken gender binaries and children-without-mommys we leave in our wake.
Marriage Equality: The idea that any two people may attain at least the same rights and privileges as a heterosexual married couple. Some people add caveats to account for incest, saying that it shouldn’t be allowed. The point is, anybody of any sex, gender, or orientation may marry anybody else of any sex, gender, or orientation. They may or may not be having sex. They may or may not be having children.
Lastly, regarding identity, gender, orientation, sex, performance, and the like, I give you this: